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A divorce party is a means to check off the ending of the hurt and distressed that comes with divorce,’ she says. ‘It allows the rite humans want to manage with several troublesome life transition. These offer comfort and friendship.

- get your divorce party going

‘It is an chance to release, to yell, laugh, yell, whatsoever you want to do. Supporters can hold a party to present their divorcing brother that they are backed, precious and not isolated.

‘The party can be a essential way the new divorced person can give thanks to all the individuals who supported by them through the phase of detachment.

‘It’s an chance to declare your different status in life. You are now one-woman and open for another experiences and also brand-new relationships.

‘A solid fresh stage of living is only the setting out. And that is something to observe!’

And do these divorce partiers ever regard the kids? How would they feel about finding that their father was really boozing and cheering being officially divided from their mother, an individual who, whether they like her or not, has the genes that have up halfway their identity?

And do the guests really want to come or, if they did, would they actually look easy?

Some have likely never watched the face of the other mate that the party-giver detests so much and, indeed, never will. Several, who knows, may wish to uphold being good friends with two of you, even immediately you’re separated.

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Tons of people are turning to the net for dating because people’s lives are getting busier everyday and there’s just not enough time in the day. On the net, there’s hundreds of tips about dating singles online but the best tips are the ones that explain that it’s best to be as straightforward and honest as possible so the online dating site can match you up decently. Sometimes people will brush off the tips they get and lie on their profile or make themselves seem different then they really are - to attract a particular kind of individual. Most of the time, honesty will bring you the best results. Dishonest will usually cause more problems than it’s worth.

A very good practical tip for singles dating online is to use the best photo (of you) possible. It should be up to date (not some image of you 15 years ago). You really have to use a picture of yourself - not any actor/actress that you consider will feel good to the opposite sex. Your picture is the 1st thing people will find and should establish you in the greatest light possible.

A Great Deal of singles dating online tips write about presenting your involvements so that you will find individuals that have same interests. Sometimes you’ll feel like you should list numerous general ones so that you will get more results but you should really list the ones that are really of interest to you. To avoid any potential surprises later on so you should really list all your interests, regardless how strange you believe there are.

The online dating sites commonly have some pretty refined ways of matching people up but they aren’t perfect. Some will make errors! It doesn’t always mean that you are a acceptable match just because a computer says so. You should always check them out, speak to them, email them before deciding to meet up.

Many people are looking for others to meet and if you are going to try online dating sites, you should decidedly listen to these internet dating tips. You should always be careful when using these sites - and remember to be safe. Online dating is not assured to provide good, safe results. Use your instincts, and have fun!

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Sensuality and passion between couples becomes heightened when they share in fun and enjoyable things together. We’re always learning, growing and noticing new things about the person we married. They change and they grow and as we share stimulating and interesting times with our spouse so does our perception of them change in a way we didn’t think possible. And this is why we shouldn’t let our marriage become dreary and mundane but always seek out fun and challenging things to share together.

1. Try to remember what you liked about your spouse from when you were first married. What did you do to woo your husband/wife? Do it again! Sometimes, especially if we have been married for a while we tend to take each other for granted and forget about how much we love the person we married.

It’s true, we do change as we experience life and as we get older but were not different people. Hopefully we are smarter, more experienced, happier, and more fun loving as we age. Did you know that couples who grow spiritually and mentally together instead of apart have better marriages? It’s true!

2. Don’t feel intimidated to try something different from your usual routine. Couples can literally get so caught up in their daily routines that they miss out on the special opportunities to add a little pack of spunk into their marriage. This is also true in the lovemaking department. Try different techniques and different positions. There is no need to be shy with your spouse, more than likely, they too would like to try something different out of the ordinary.

Try your expertise at bowling, roller-skating, or ice-skating, see a movie, or walk in the mall. Anything! Sharing time together doing things you normally wouldn’t do brings excitement and fun back into a mundane relationship while bringing you closer together.

If you like a challenge, or you’re a thrill seeker, try skydiving, bungie jumping or for the more conscience at heart and a bit safer, how about a roller coaster ride. But by all means do these thrilling things together.

3. Take the weekend off and go somewhere romantic. Snow anyone? You don’t necessarily need to know how to ski to enjoy the amenities and beauty of a ski lodge. Lounge in the Jacuzzi, go sledding, take long walks outdoors, or sit by the fire talking about anything and everything. But leave work and home life out of the conversation.

Take a trip to a lake in your area and stay overnight in a cabin. Go fishing, swimming, hiking, backpacking with your husband and eat by the campfire. Sleep in a tent and roast marshmallows.

4. Take a three-day spiritual/meditation retreat together. This will do wonders for the body, mind and soul. It will give you the relaxation you need to refresh your whole outlook on life and rejuvenate your marriage too.

5. Write down all the things you love about your husband/wife and share your thoughts with each other. Sometimes we forget to tell our spouse how much we love them or why we love them, but we all need to hear those words once in awhile. It’s that bit of reassurance that brings music to our ears as it reminds us how blessed we really are to have married the person we did. Let’s not forget about all those little things we love about our husband/wife. Let’s tell them today!

6. Make up your own coupon booklet on the computer and give it to your husband/wife. In the coupon booklet for an example a coupon might read, “This coupon good for a 1/2 hour back rub.” The next coupon might read, “Coupon good for 20 minute foot massage.” The next coupon might say, “Good for one night out at your favorite restaurant”. Coupon booklets are great because we can customize them to our needs and wants too.
Happy Romancing!

Angie Lewis has written another valuable and informative book geared to married women and women who are thinking of getting married. In her book Angie shares her inspired divine wisdom that took her years to figure out and apply into her own marriage of 22 years. She shows you step by step biblical applications for a happier and forever lasting marriage.

“LOVE THE MAN YOU MARRIED” (A Woman’s Handbook For Marriage) will be released to the public in February 2006.

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How do you know whether the current romantic relationship, love affair, or even marriage is the ‘right’ one for you? For starters, ask yourself how you feel about 75% of the time. Be brutally honest. Would you describe your mood as predominantly happy or sad, your basic outlook as mostly positive or negative?

A healthy relationship doesn’t make you feel miserable. You don’t need to endlessly obsess about issues over which you have no control, such as “Will he ever leave his wife so that we can be married, even after his children graduate from college, like he promised?”

Why do so many people settle for being unhappy as a way of life? Often it’s because they don’t feel they deserve to be happy. But love doesn’t, or shouldn’t, make you feel bad. Can love actually be bad for you? Well, toxic love can — and may result in relentless anxiety about the one who holds your life, hopes, and well-being in the palm of his (or her) hand.

Desperate, worried people tend to be possessive, jealous, clinging, whiny, and/or unreasonable. So is it any wonder that this type of obsessive love can actually alienate the object of such an overwhelming, all-consuming love? Everyone needs some psychic space, and having such anxious demands placed on you can be suffocating. Who among us feels capable of living up to such high standards as making someone else deliriously happy?

Extremely needy people tend to be ‘high maintenance’ in a love relationship, sometimes even in a simple friendship. It’s not much fun to realize the person you care about (and once even thought you might want to marry) is constantly keeping score. It begins to feel as though you’ll never “pass Go” but will usually land “in Jail.” But love shouldn’t be a Monopoly game. There needs to be plenty of room for each partner to stretch, and grow. Gluing two separate people together is not just symbiotic but potentially dysfunctional.

So, how do you view your own relationship, to measure just how healthy it is? After evaluating whether you’re mostly happy and content, or mostly sad and worried, you might want to consider the basic ingredients or characteristics — all right, call them Strengths — of a healthy relationship, as follows:

(1) What each of us expects from the other is fair and realistic.
(2) We are happy with one another, as we are.
(3) Each of us listens to the other, and cares.
(4) There is ample room for each of us to have a separate life/self. We know we are two separate people who choose to be together and grow/nurture a wonderful, loving relationship.
(5) We can argue or disagree, and remain friends.
(6) Each of us has come to rely on the other, because we value our relationship as a top priority.
(7) Mutual communication and sharing is valued by each of us.
(8) Neither of us must be something or someone other than what we are, to please the other.
(9) Total honesty is a shared value, as well as kindness and sensitivity toward one another’s feelings.
(10) Our relationship works well now, not as an unfulfilled goal to be hoped for in the future.
(11) We are both committed to the relationship, and to one another. Neither of us threatens to leave.
(12) We love and care for one another, unconditionally

How many of those strengths does your relationship have? Remember, if yours seems to be lacking, it’s not necessarily time to end it all — because every relationship or marriage can be improved, if both parties are willing to work together to achieve that goal. Don’t settle for mediocre, when you can shoot for and really have Miraculous!

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Stephania edits a twice-monthly HTML ezine, Tidbits from the Pantry, that is currently sent to more than 11,000 opt-in subscribers. She recently retired after 40 years in the field of human services, and offers a free evaluation of a life problem to any subscriber by email.

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As brides and grooms are getting married at an older and more mature age many of them are opting to pay for their wedding. While paying for your own wedding can be expensive, it is a fantastically liberating experience. Regardless of who pays for the wedding, you or your parents, it is a significant financial commitment. The best rationale to pay for your own wedding is that you do not want to compromise on how, when and where you get married and you are ready to pay for the whole thing on your own.

The typical cost of a wedding is more than $20,000. Therefore, paying for your wedding requires a significant financial commitment. The sooner you start planning and saving for your wedding, the more advantage you have. The average time between the engagement and the wedding day is 12 to 18 months, which provides you an opportunity to plan and save for your wedding.

The most significant task you have is to establish the total amount you want to spend on your wedding. Then, divide the amount by the number of months to determine how much money you need to put aside each month to meet your goal. If you estimate that your wedding will cost $20,000, and you have two years until your wedding, you need to save about $834.00 per month.

Reasonably, not everyone can put aside over $800.00 each month. Therefore, if you cannot save enough money to cover all the costs, you may need to start cutting costs until you come up with a figure that you can meet. In addition to cost cutting, your dollars can go far by saving on everything you do. You can save by taking your lunch instead of going out, spend less on clothes and entertainment. An even better option is to take on a part time job to help you with your budget. You have many options; you just need to figure out the one that best works for you.

Opening a savings account dedicated to your wedding may help enforce the need to save. Even if you start with a small amount, a savings account should help you make the right spending and saving decisions. You can find ways to save money by researching as much as you can about the products and services you need for your wedding. The more educated you become about prices, the more you can bargain with vendors to make sure you get the best possible deals.

Wedding Favors
Wedding reception favors personalized, wedding candles, favor bags.

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Two heads are better than one, so sit down with your spouse and plan out your financial future together.
Prioritize your bills.

By determining which bills to pay in which order, you’ll get in the habit of making sure your essentials are always paid first.

Be careful using credit. Sometimes a financial crisis will come not because of a layoff, but because you’re overextended. Most people can afford to devote 10 percent of their net income (after taxes) to installment debt, not including mortgage or rent payments. If you pay out more than 15 percent, you need to cut back.

Establish an emergency fund. Open a savings account and start “paying yourself” 10 percent of each paycheck.

What happens if we run into an emergency and our emergency fund isn’t enough?

Don’t panic. When facing a financial crisis, stay calm. This will help you think logically and you’ll avoid unnecessary arguments with your spouse.

Quit spending money. When faced with a financial challenge, it’s easy to use your credit cards. But you may run up your balance to the credit limit and not be able to afford the payments, which will result in a poor credit ratingsomething you won’t want during a crisis time.

Prioritize your bills. Pay essential, or survival, bills first: food, mortgage or rent, utilities. Next, pay car insurance, medical needs, child support, and any loans such as automobiles and furniture that are secured as collateral.

Then pay the nonessential billsthose debts in which no immediate consequences occur if paid late: credit and charge cards, attorney, medical, and accounting bills, newspaper and magazine subscriptions, life insurance, childcare, gyms, or clothing.

Communicate with your creditors. If you can’t pay your bills or can only pay a partial amount, your creditors may be able to help you to establish a repayment plan.

Some lenders will allow you to defer one payment a year, meaning the payment for that particular month doesn’t have to be made. The deferred payment is added to the end of the contract.

Take notes of any conversations with creditors, listing the date and person with whom you spoke. Whatever arrangement you make, get it in writing from the creditor before you send in money.

Know your rights. Many collection agencies are in violation of the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act. To get a copy of this legislation, visit www.ftc.gov. If you feel you’ve been violated, file a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission at their website.

Find outside help. Many churches and Para church organizations run programs to help you navigate through financial troubles.

A debt management company may also be able to help you reduce your payments, lower your interest rates, and pay off your debt faster than trying to do it yourself.

Such companies can also negotiate with your creditors to bring your accounts current if they’re past due.
Avoid bankruptcy. Bankruptcies should be your last resort. A bankruptcy can remain on your credit report for up to 10 years.

Nathan Dawson writes for http://www.marriedfinances.com and http://www.successfulmarriageresource.com, great online sources for marriage and finance information.

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There are many choices available if you want to add a little, or a lot of excitement, to your Las Vegas wedding. This electrifying city offers many opportunities to give your Vegas wedding some momentum, in some cases quite literally.

How about getting married in a hot air balloon as it soars above the earth? Several Las Vegas wedding chapels offer you this opportunity. Looking for more of an adrenaline rush than that? How about really taking the plunge? At Viva Las Vegas Wedding Chapel they offer a package where the happy couple gets hitched and then is whisked away to a indoor skydiving adventure. You can even have a video made of you taking the plunge both times.

If this is a little too adventurous for you but you still want something out of the ordinary, consider one of the many limousine wedding packages available. That’s right, you can say I do in the back of a limo as it cruises the famous Las Vegas Strip. Not only that, but you have your choice of limos. Hummer, Excursion, and traditional limousines can all be found.

Another option for adding an extra thrill to your big day is to consider a wedding on the roller coaster at the top of the Stratosphere tower, which is located over 900 feet above the ground. If you want to get to a higher elevation than that, opt for a helicopter wedding. Many locations offer them and you have your choice of destinations. You can either say I do while flying over the Las Vegas Strip or the Grand Canyon.

If you want something more relaxing, try a gondola wedding at the Venetian Hotel. You can say I do as you and your beloved float down a canal in a romantic, Venice-themed setting. Lake Mead Cruises offers weddings on a paddlewheel boat as it explores famous Lake Mead. Drive thru weddings are also readily available. The Little White Wedding Chapel offers a drive thru tunnel and offers bike and limousine rentals if you don’t want to use your own car. At A Special Memory Wedding Chapel they have a drive up window and offer the option of having Elvis pick up the happy couple in his pink Cadillac. At A Las Vegas Garden of Love, you can say I do at their drive thru window while sitting in a Viper, Prowler, or even a Monster Truck.

So if you are looking to add an extra bit of exhilaration to your special day, look no further than Las Vegas. The choices this entertaining city can provide can not be matched anywhere else in the world.

Rebecca Johnson is owner of Las Vegas Wedding Informer, a website that offers information about Las Vegas wedding locations. If you would like to learn more about Las Vegas wedding locations and the packages and services they offer, visit http://www.lasvegasweddinginformer.com.

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You’re well into planning your wedding and have finally decided on the design of your wedding invitation. The wording has been chosen and the guest list is well on its way to completion. Here are some additional wedding invitation tips and advice that you should also be aware of.

* If children will also be included as guests, you can choose to write out their individual names on the addressed envelopes or put “and family”. For example:

Mr. and Mrs. Bob Simpson, Cathy and John
or
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Simpson and Family

* If the children are older teenagers (say 16 years of age or older), you may wish to send them an individual invitation, just like you would an adult.

* If you don’t wish to include children at the ceremony, do not include their names or “and family” on the outside of the envelope. It’s suggested you add “Sorry, but children are not invited”, “adults only” or something similar somewhere on the invitation to make it clear. If you wish to include them at the reception, but not at the ceremony, you could note this information on the response card…or on the invitation itself at the bottom in some fashion.

* When issuing invitations to a guest who is single, it is polite to put “and Guest” on the outside of the envelope so that they have the option to bring along a companion. For example:

Mr. Ralph Jones and Guest
or
Miss Sarah Campbell and Guest

* Be forewarned. Usually 7% to 10% of the guests who respond with a yes will not actually attend the wedding. In addition, 20% to 30% won’t make it to the reception. This can wreak havoc when budgeting for a sit down dinner. You may want to consider a buffet style dinner instead.

* In some cases, you’ll want to invite people to the ceremony, but not the reception or vice versa. If so, then you will need two sets of invitations printed. One that includes reception information and one that doesn’t.

* If you don’t receive a reply from some guests by your reply date, do not hesitate to call them. It is important that you know how many are attending so you budget accordingly.

* If you decide to order invitations, be sure to do so at least 4 to 6 weeks before they are scheduled to be mailed. If you plan on mailing your invitations around the 15th of March, order them between February 1st and 15th.

* Double, even triple check everything before it gets printed. This includes invitations, response cards, envelopes, wedding programs, etc. whether you’re doing them yourself or your having them professionally printed. Check for spelling errors especially.

* Always order extra invitation envelopes and response card envelopes. There will inevitably be a few mistakes when addressing these and you’ll want to have a few extras on hand.

* You should mail your invitations at least 6 weeks before the wedding date and indicate that you would like a response at least 3 weeks before the wedding date. So if your wedding date is July 1st, mail your invitations by May 15th and ask that they respond by June 7th. This will give guests time to receive their invitations and reply by mail, which in turn, gives you time to firm up catering plans, seating arrangements, etc.

* If your wedding is going to actually be held on a beach or other outdoor area, be sure that you let your guests know this, so they can dress appropriately.

Rose Smith has been providing helpful information on wedding planning for many years. For wedding theme ideas, articles and resources, visit her website Wedding Themes and More at http://www.wedthemes.com. Visit Wedding Planning Guides for a full range of wedding planning books at http://www.wedding-planning-guides.com

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